Hi Loyal readers. If you're here for a hookup story, read no further.
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OMG. I just read what I wrote last night. I guess I needed to vent. If you don't want to read the mindless rant, here's the readers digest version:
* Houseboat guy and I had lunch and cleared the air. All is good. I doubt he will bug me any more to hook up.
* I'm falling for a new guy I call "Handshake," but he's been distant. I finally got to see him after a 5 weeks. Now, I like him even more, but I get the feeling he's just not that into me.
* I met yet another new guy on Adam4Adam who is totally hot. We met for coffee, and sent a few texts. I'm confused if I should pursue something with him.
I think I'll delete the rest now.
Three dates in one day. Not one hookup.
You know. I should have just stuck with the hookup thing. I think I have that down pretty good.
(Whew. That felt good to get off my chest. I feel better already. Thanks for listening.)
Jack. (for now.)
I would have gone for Handshake if i were you. I am sure he feels the connection too but is just keeping distance to protect himself emotionally. If you give him the space he needs and let him know you're still willing to stick around, I think he will open up eventually. I hope.
ReplyDeleteBravo Jack - at least you are putting it out there. Something and someone will come along and grab you - just be open to letting it happen. In the meantime, a good sucking every now and then is just what the doctor ordered!
ReplyDeleteI'm in a relationship with another top myself, Jack, so maybe you can see where it eventually leads. But I am very happy in that department, and we had a few monogamous years of very nice sex. (My partner gave better head than Houseboat, I guess! But that can be fixed, if he's eager to make you feel good, which he ought to be.) Don't second guess things and turn dating into a detective story; it's more a choose-your-own-adventure thing. If you still enjoy seeing people, keep seeing them till you don't. If you don't, or something tells you it's not right, go with what you feel. I feel like when it's really time to settle down, there will be little question in your mind that you should, even if the guy has issues or doesn't seem perfect on paper (again, that's how it was for me). But if you don't have that feeling with someone, that's no reason not to enjoy what you can with them; enjoy it until it's not enjoyable for one of you any more but take it for what it is.
ReplyDeleteAs for the finger-in-the-ass conversation: how about no conversation at all, and you just stick your finger in his ass and if he jumps off the bed say "sorry" and if he doubles down say, "you're welcome"? Just give it a try, don't be shy in bed with people just cuz you like em!
Much appreciated everyone. Seriously.
ReplyDeleteHandshake. He sounds like the right one for now, and I'm glad you're open to a deeper connection. I guess time will tell if he is too. We all come with different emotional baggage, and it may take a while to figure his out if he doesn't readily share it. You pushed him a bit on the office email, and he thought it over and must have seen it your way. That's a good sign. I believe in talking as honestly as possible (though I haven't always practiced that). Keep meeting and talking and playing. Maybe it'll happen. I'd suggest that instead of inserting a finger, ask him what he'd like to try. My buddy used to encourage me to explore one new sexual thing every time we met. It helped me be more sexually open and responsive when I had been pretty repressed and inexperienced before.
ReplyDeleteSo carry on with Handshake, but have a little fun with the young hottie too. And thank goodness you were honest with Houseboat. That sounded messed up and needed to end.
I've recently discovered Pho also. Amazing, delicious stuff!
Thanks again for sharing.
Thanks Adam. I tried to respond personally, but you have no e-mail on your profile!
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